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10 Years Cancer Free

What I’ve Learned

Candra Anaya
3 min readJun 15, 2023
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At this exact moment of time, a distant decade ago, I was lying on an operating table in San Francisco while two of the country’s best neurosurgeons operated on my brain. Life led me to the highest summit, took me right to the edge of the cliff, and when I wasn’t looking, pushed me off with all its might. Free-falling for an entire decade now, this is what I’ve learned about living life after a cancer diagnosis. I promise, not every lesson is a cliché, though I gave it my best shot.

Sometimes you find love, and it slips away.

The universe can be as kind as it is cruel.

Death isn’t bad, and life isn’t good.

My soul may choose where I want to be, but something far greater decides the exact destination.

My gut is always right. Always.

Just because I know when something is right for me doesn’t mean I’ll ever comprehend why.

The energy I exhaust fighting to understand why is a colossal waste of time that I’ll never get back.

Instead of asking Why? ask What now?

Letting go always hurts. Until it doesn’t.

Even in a world of grey, black and white still exists.

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Candra Anaya
Candra Anaya

Written by Candra Anaya

Advice columnist, Dear Queer ~Gayly Giving Advice Straight from the Heart. Co-author of bestseller The Life-Changing Power of Self-Love. https://CandraAnaya.com

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