Dear Queer ~ New Year’s Resolution?

Gayly Giving Advice Straight from the Heart ~ January 2025

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Dear Queer,

The wife and I need a good New Year’s resolution. Whatcha got? Thanks, and happy new year, Dear Queer.

-Tony

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Hey Tony,

Thanks for your question- this is a fun one! Ok, are y’all ready? I want you to take a 21-day vow. To do what? Not have sex. Wait- before I lose you- I’m kidding. The real deal will change your perception of life. Plus, now it won’t sound as hard. You’re welcome.

When I first heard about this challenge years ago, I was intrigued. I read the article in its entirety, then showered myself with a million excuses why this was the dumbest idea ever. It squashes your voice, I whined. It’s an emotional bypass, I reasoned. Women have a hard enough time expressing our truth, the last thing we should do is refrain from self-expression. I threw every excuse I could at this- my resistance was thick. But I couldn’t deny each reaction I had was in the negative, which kinda proved the point of the vow entirely.

So what is the 21-day vow? To not complain out loud. Seems easy enough, right? Per the rules…