Dear Queer ~ Trump Won and I’m Freaking Out

Gayly Giving Advice Straight from the Heart ~ February 2025

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Dear Queer,

I can’t believe I am writing you under these circumstances. Donald Trump took office and no matter which way I turn, someone in my life is flipping out. My best friend’s husband (who wasn’t born in the US) is terrified of ICE raids. The gay parents I know are filing to adopt their own children. A friend from college lost her right to medical care. I am a federal employee, and my co-workers and I are showing up to work every day not knowing if we will be employed by the end of the week. This is crazy making. Do I scream or do I cry? Please help. I don’t know what to do.

From, Scared Stiff

Photo by Monica Melton on Unsplash

Hey Scared Stiff,

Take a deep breath, my friend. I’m serious- please do it. Good job. Now, repeat two more times. It only takes 3 intentional, consecutive breaths to reboot your nervous system. And let's face it- we all need a reset right about now.

First, let me say I hear your deep concern for your friends, both near and far, and I share your frustration and confusion. While you may have asked…