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Gayly Giving Advice Straight from the Heart ~ September 2023*
Dear Queer,
I am currently processing and healing from a divorce, but I have this question for my future mate. I identify as non-binary and trans-masc. I generally play a very protective and caring role in the relationships I’m in. That being said, part of the reason I do that is because I want to receive protection and care, too. I send flowers or gifts to my mates, but I enjoy receiving them also. I have historically been with femme or soft-butch female partners, but I am attracted to all kinds. Have I just been with the wrong people? How do I approach this in the future?
Sincerely,
Feeling Vulnerable
Dear Vulnerable,
First, my condolences for your divorce. Even when it’s the right move to make, it is still a challenging process at best. I’m glad to hear you are giving yourself time to process and heal. Your question is quite timely, as I just so happen to be co-authoring the book, The Life-Changing Power of Self-Love. This is written with so much heart, by 22 of us who are exactly like you- ripe from a life-altering event, and who want to share the medicine of what we learned through our own…
