Member-only story
Dear Queer ~ Paying for a Single Mom?
Gayly Giving Advice Straight from the Heart ~ August 2023
Dear Queer,
When you date a single mom, do you offer to pay for the babysitter’s fees? I figure if she’s willing to pay money to spend what little alone time she has with me, the least I can do is offer to chip in. Especially if I invite her out and not the other way around. I want to take her time into consideration, but also I don’t want to offend her or overstep. I don’t have any kids myself, so I’m not sure where the line is.
Signed,
A Penny for Your Thoughts
Hey Penny,
As a single mom myself, I find your offer incredibly thoughtful. Personally, I have never once heard of any single-mom friends having this dilemma. So let’s break it down- the good and the bad.
The bad: Most individuals I know have experienced serious issues around money at some point in their life. Whether growing up with the lack-thereof, or the other end of the spectrum of being privileged and unaware of the cost of things, money management is a learned behavior that many people have not been…
