Thank you so much for writing this. One of my closest family members and I have an unspoken rule to never get angry with one another- which stems from childhood trauma. Your article has me questioning how many “tiny hurts” over the years have led to how many incidents neither of us are taking responsibility for, therefore no apologizing is taking place either. It’s like we are unintentionally adding salt to an open wound. Thank you for encouraging me to think more about this and for inspiring me with your words to make changes in areas that are long overdue. I appreciate it.